“I am 29 years old, newly divorced and despite having a decent life and husband, I decided to put an end to my marriage. Here’s my story! I was around 24 years old when my parents started to look for matches for me. I came across a person who seemed nice and decent and as we got to know each other better, I felt at ease with him and decided to go ahead with the marriage. This in retrospect I believe, was a hasty move from my side.
Because just a few months into the marriage, my ex and I found out that we were poles apart. We have zero compatibility and we just couldn’t figure out how we could make each other happy. We did have a couple of good times together but those were very few and short lived. I saw people in happy marriages and it seemed so effortless and easy. But I couldn’t say the same about mine!
Both our families got along well and we sought their help wherever possible but it was all in vain. We ended up causing a lot of pain to each other and I can still remember all our fights and the marriage counseling sessions we endured just trying really hard to make things work. It was completely draining for me and caused me so much pain.
As the days progressed, I was contemplating on getting a divorce but there was no solid enough reason like abuse or infidelity. I was miserable thinking that if happiness was a good enough reason to end something like this and if I will find a decent partner again.
That is when I turned to some of the online support groups and this offered me some amount of clarity. And it finally dawned on me that, I did have the right to put myself first and seek the things that mattered to me the most – happiness, fulfillment and peace. And I owed no one any explanation on why I was ending up which others considered ‘good enough’.
I do someday hope that I get into a marriage which brings me happiness and I am extremely grateful for having an ex-partner who was completely understanding of my needs and wishes and ended the proceedings in a smooth civil way.
Sometimes we all end up in places we may not grow to like but that doesn’t mean we can’t do what’s best for ourselves. We owe it to ourselves!”
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