“Most girls have a change of the last name when they get married, I had a change of fate. Married at the age of 21 to the guy I fell in love with, the Deepa who was a class topper until 12th standard and was very much appreciated at her workplace soon turned into a maid.
My mother does menial jobs and I lost my father at a very young age, I have a brother who is now married. When I had just completed my 12th standard, I was offered the opportunity to pursue my bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Physiotherapy from my school, but then, destiny had other plans. My father died and I was forced to take up a job, during which I met my now husband who was an electrician back then.
Our parents got us married, my husband showered me with love that I forgot to even visit or call my mother, I got pregnant and had to quit my job. Life changed, and in the last five years, my husband has gotten addicted to drinking. He barely makes a living and lives of the money I make by doing odd jobs in the apartments nearby.
My only desire now is to make sure that my kids don’t face my fate. I wish to make sure they get the best of education, but there is only a little I could do from my income. A lot of people in the apartments I work at, have offered to help me find a better job, but the safety of my girl child is what worries me, so I have been choosing to stay close to home.
I wake up every day hoping that my husband would quit drinking and take up a job, and be nice to me, but the only time he is sweet to me is during the first ten days of the month when he knows that I must have received money from the flats that I work in. It hurts me every time I place my hands on the vessels and broom trying to clean up other people’s house, not because it is something I find too low to be doing, but because I put in a lot of effort during my school days to understand every theory and theorem and now when I look back I wonder if this is all that my education is worth. Even now I wouldn’t blame my husband, he is still a wonderful human being deep down, what I despise is his addiction to alcohol.
The only thing I wish to tell my kids or anyone who would listen is that there is nothing wrong in falling in love or marrying, it is just that you need to do it in the right age, or you would repent it for the rest of your life as I do. Because one wrong decision, more so in terms of marriage can turn your life topsy-turvy!”
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