“I had a traumatized childhood.
I was a small girl who always tried to impress my mother, hoping to get her attention and approval. But no matter how hard I tried, I never seemed to measure up. It was as if I was always one step behind, never quite good enough.
My mother who had from a village background had strict expectations of how a girl should behave. She believed that girls should be obedient, silent, and never expose themselves to the world.
Despite my mother’s expectations, I found a friend and ally in my father. We were a team, wherein my brother and mother were a team.
The distance between my mother and me started growing from this incident:
When I was in 8th grade, I showed my watch to my friend in class, but a girl started a rumour stating I was showing off my watch to a guy to gain attention. My teacher misunderstood the situation and complained to the principal. The principal called my mother, and she immediately believed the accusations made against me. My mom scolded and beat me, making me feel even more worthless. The principal assumed that I was showing off my watch to impress the guy.
My mom accused me of being sinful and scolded me for no reason. I didn’t understand what I had done wrong, but I knew that I didn’t deserve to be treated that way. My mother made me feel characterless at a very young age, and I could never understand why.
Years went by, but my mother never changed. I grew up feeling oppressed and unhappy, always longing for a way out.
I was traumatized mentally and always wished to run out of my house. Although my dad was sweet to me, I never told him about what was happening because I didn’t want to disturb him.
As years passed by, even before I turned out to be 18, I got a chance to visit my cousin in Bangalore, and I took it as an opportunity to run away from home forever.
My father gave me Rs.500 to buy some snacks during my train journey and my mother dropped me at the station and told me this before leaving me – “Everything will change when you come back.” But I knew that there was never coming back.
When the train started moving, I felt wings on my back, ready to fly away. I tasted the sweetness of life, and it was like I had been reborn. I vowed to never let anyone treat me badly again and to always fight for my rights & happiness.
Since I had no proper degree, I started my career working in a call centre and grew up by upskilling myself. I kept learning so much and made myself a better person by experiencing it all alone.
I knew that I would never have to cry again because I was finally in control of my own life.
The trauma that I had gone through made me become a life coach and help women who are in need. I’ve empowered 5000+ women so far through Wiki Wonder Woman being a professional life coach.
I am living proof that your past, no matter how painful it could be, does NOT get to describe who you are & limit you to achieve your dreams. Because Trauma gives us 2 things – Pain & Power. Most of us get stuck with the pain but if you can tap into the power, it will help you heal through your life and gain you more confidence & strength.
With the power that my traumas left me with, I am able to empower other women by providing solutions for their life struggles. Wiki Wonder Woman was born from these traumas that faced and yet, I’m proud to embrace them with each passing day. I believe every woman knew what to do but the biggest challenge is answering the ‘HOW’.
I have been fortunate enough that I have empowered 6000+ women, providing free resources & I continue to do so.
Trauma can teach us the worth of pain and the value of power. I chose to be the wisest – I discovered the power source within me.”