“Pregnancy is as much a husband’s test of strength as it is of the wife’s. While the physical complications involved in the process is what’s most talked about, the silent suffering that a man goes through, watching their partner in pain often goes unnoticed.
Now even in my case, it was my two pregnancies that brought me and my husband closer than ever. And this is despite us being in love since college. We had spent a good chunk of years knowing each other but nothing could match the depth of emotions we felt during my trimesters.
The first one especially was really frightening after the doctor informed us of not being able to spot the baby during one of my scans. With the impact of such complications, pushing me to get a C-section I could notice my husband trying to remain calm though he was completely panicking from within, seeing me in that state.
What added further to his stress, was the news of my sudden organ failures. A day after my son was born, I couldn’t even open my eyes and was at the center of multiple health issues including, fluid-filled lungs, dropping heart rates, and an unexpected kidney failure. With all this happening simultaneously, I was in the ICU for a good couple of days with 3 dialyses to my credit alongside a neck that was fully punctured in order to push food into my body.
Now while everyone could imagine the effect that process would’ve had on me, I witnessed, firsthand all the misery, my husband went through, seeing my trauma. There wasn’t a single time he could look me in the eye without tearing up. And even years after I was back on my feet, he was more afraid of my decision to go through pregnancy, a second time.
Of course, I did understand his worry, but somewhere knew that I had to return to a state where I could trust my own body! And therefore, after careful consideration, and an even more cautious process, we’d given birth to our second child- a beautiful baby girl! This time, it felt so fulfilling when I knew we had now grown into a happy family of four, with my husband standing by my side at all times, respecting my choices over his own. There could be a world of obstacles stacked up against your progress, but with the right person it is literally a breeze to navigate through. And I guess I’m lucky to have a man that loves me more than himself!”